About Me

I grew up in a small town near Barcelona (Spain) and from an early age, I had to learn to deal with racism, discrimination, and social rejection for being a descendant of Nigerian immigrants. It made it hard for me to develop my identity as a young teenager. It felt like was living between two words and none of them accepted me for who I was. It made it so difficult for me to develop and nurture my own identity. On top of that, my HSP Empath traits started to become more evident. I started developing strong emotional reactions that sometimes I struggled to contain. I didn’t know what was happening to me. To worsen the situation, I fell in love with a boy and my feelings were not reciprocated. Love brought me very intense and overwhelming emotions that I ignored and buried deep inside me, but they always managed to reemerge. Crying was my gateway. And, without realising it, I became this emotional person that I didn’t like, and others had a hard time handling. So, after struggling to manage my emotions for months, I decided that the best solution would be to ‘disconnect’ from feelings. I believed that this part of myself made me ‘weak’. I didn't want to be seen as ‘weak’ or ‘sensitive’.

From this point onwards, I navigated adulthood life with my mind as the main driver. I made decisions using my logic, knowledge, and common sense, and I rejected and ignored the other parts of me. This decision led me straight to a narcissistic relationship. My mind believed that his manipulating and controlling behaviours were signs of true love. The relationship had issues that I refused to acknowledge. I was blinded by the strong trauma bond pretending to be love. Suddenly, my needs didn’t matter anymore. My opinion was worthless. My life goals were unimportant. My friends and family were far away from me. He made sure of that! I had nobody else except him!
For years, I felt alone, empty, and unloved. I couldn’t understand why he didn't love me back. I did everything that he wanted me to do. I was the perfect wife!

Breaking out of this toxic relationship was deeply painful. I ignored and buried my emotional pain deep inside me for months. But, my emotional wound kept unconsciously attracting unhealthy partners until I decided to take responsibility for my feelings, emotions, and insecurities.

I started my journey of becoming my Authentic Self by healing my throat wound. I needed to bring back my self-expression and be able to speak my mind again. After that, I worked on healing my narcissistic trauma and inner child wounds which allowed me to develop greater self-awareness and reconnect with all parts of me. I became whole again. Healing my emotional wounds helped shift my path into a self-discovery journey that uncovered my Authentic Self and revealed my Life Purpose.

           

Ezekiel 36:26

                                   

“Healing my inner child and emotional wounds empowered me to become the best version of myself.”

Core Values 

“I like  create a non-judgmental space filled with…

  • Authenticity
  • Honesty 
  • Compassion & Empathy 
  • Love
  • Positive & Nurturing Communication 
  • Respect
  • Empowerment & Motivation
  • Connection

…because they are important values to me.” 💞